Ever been so attracted to someone that you found yourself tongue-tied and unable to “bust” your usual move to let your feelings be known? If so, then you are not alone. Women get so caught up in their insecurities that they forget how to act and freeze up. When I was in the process of obtaining my medical assistant certification, on the way to becoming a medical assistant, I met a man that I was so attracted to that I was surprised at my own behavior around him. It was very uncharacteristic of me to find myself in a position where I am speechless. Upon introspection I realized that it was just a severe case of the nerves and that being rejected was a real fear. With him, rejection was not acceptable to me, as I already had visions of us walking down the aisle together!
What do you do if you find yourself in that position? As I mentioned, I did and it was not until I was a registered medical assistant that I found the courage to approach this man and of course the rest is history. Here are some tips that may be helpful to you if you encounter a situation such as mine.
Play Up Your Feminine Side To A Hilt: When you meet that man who makes your heart skip a beat or two, take a minute, regain your breath and wait for him to give you a chance to break the ice. If that seems un-forthcoming, take it upon yourself to make the first move. A smile is a great start that usually will get the ball rolling. From this point on let him take the lead while you take a minute to catch your breath. Listening in these initial stages is more recommended that a full on monologue about yourself.
The Power of an Innocent Touch: A simple brush against his shoulder or a gentle arm graze goes a long way in sending the message. If he is even somewhat perceptive he will clearly read the signals and will well be on the way to asking you out. This move on your part will make your intentions clear, so that he does not have any doubts as to the meaning of that touch. Making it easier for him to read your motives can only help the situation.
Acknowledge How special you find him: Men seldom hear appreciation from women telling them how much their gestures mean to them. Even an act as simple as getting you a drink from the bar or a pulling out a chair or opening the car door should not go unnoticed. Chivalry will be dead if we are not appreciative of these acts, if we give them the sense that those little gestures make no difference to us, one way or the other.
Lastly, be yourself. Once the initial animal attraction wears off, then you are left with each others personality to deal with. There is no amount of eye-lash batting and sweet-nothings that can sustain a relationship that is based on anything but the meeting of the minds. So show a side of yourself early on that is the most likely to last over the long term.